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Just another Onlyfans girl

3 weeks into January and so many people seem to have completely given up on New Years resolutions. It’s cool, no judgement here as I don’t believe in them. However if you made one I’m assuming it meant there was something you wanted to either change about your life or specifically achieve this year.

Don’t let the pressures of a new decade or the fact others may not agree & support you stop you from living the life you want.

Last year I moved to making more “adult content” and stuck some of it behind a paywall. To say people were pissed is an understatement. I went back and forth over wether it was the right thing to do. I didn’t wanna be referred to as just another “onlyfans girl”, yet despite all of that doubt and hate it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. (Also I’m not an Onlyfans girl but I can point you in the direction of my 18+ content if you wish)

So basically what I’m tryna say is, wether it’s three weeks into January 2020, June, November or 2035 if you wanna make a change in your life do it. Set backs are fine, breaks are needed, just don’t give up.

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Reintroducing Myself

So because I haven’t been overly active on this blog for a while. I kind of want to re introduce myself and share some things that’ll allow anyone new here to get to know me.

I realise this isn’t the most, I guess, original post but I do think it’s kind of important. If you’ve been here a while, you may think,

“Oh I know all this”

“She’s done similar posts before”

That maybe so, but people grow, people change etc so give it a chance yeah.

Here’s some facts about me πŸ™‚

  1. My real name is Charlotte Louise not Charlotte Debs
  2. I’m 27 years old
  3. My birthday is April 24th, so I’m a Taurus.
  4. I was born quite prematurely so spent some time in the Special Care Baby Unit.
  5. I was born and raised in Cornwall, Uk πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ This touristy county is home sweet home and I couldn’t imagine being anywhere else.
  6. Despite living in a place world famous for surfing. I’ve literally been probably only a handful of times throughout my life.
  7. I don’t really drink alcohol anymore and haven’t done since 2014
  8. I love tattoos and would love to get more.
  9. Despite having piercings, I’ve always been a tattoo person.
  10. I’m the oldest and only have brothers.
  11. Despite being the oldest I’m the only one without kids.
  12. I’m an auntie to 5 wonderful boys and 2 pretty little girls.
  13. I can’t drive and it’s something I really wish I could do.
  14. I struggle daily with chronic pain and fatigue.
  15. Although I originally started blogging in 2014. I definitely at this current time see myself as more of a live streamer.
  16. I genuinely feel like social media has helped me through some of my hardest days.
  17. I really hope through sharing my life and story online, that I help or inspire at least one person.
  18. My Favourite film is Beauty & The Beast. The original. Although I guess the live action version is pretty cool too.
  19. I’ve been a vegetarian since I was 15.
  20. I’ve had the same 3 closest friends since I was 16.
  21. I could live in pyjamas
  22. Or leggings.
  23. For the last couple of years I’ve cared for my grandparents.
  24. I could live of cups of hot tea but the amount of sugar Id consume would be crazy sooooo.
  25. I’m a big lover of Monster Energy Drinks.
  26. I collect Trainers / Sneakers but I’m selling a lot of them on Depop soooo https://www.depop.com/c_debs/
  27. I’m 6 months into a fitness journey
  28. I’m a HELL NO CARDIO kinda girl πŸ˜‚
  29. I don’t feel like myself if my nails aren’t painted.
  30. I’m a total girly girl despite growing up what I’d consider a tomboy.

I hope you enjoyed learning a little about me. Anything we have in common?

Love Charlotte

xxx

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Things Change…

I can’t explain how much has changed since the last time I wrote a blog post. I almost don’t really know where to start.

I kind of lost my passion for writing and have been focused on caring for my grandparents. It’s been hard and over the last few years and more intensely in the last few months, I’ve felt like I’ve not really done a lot for myself. I feel a little lost in life and unsure of who I am and what I want.

As my living / family/ personal situation has changed. I’m slowly starting to focus on me again, what I enjoy and what I want to do. Just typing this feels amazing. Blogging has always been such a love of mine.

I’ve thrown myself into a fitness journey over the last couple of months. (You’ll already know this if you follow me on Instagram). Originally, just getting there for an hour a week and surviving was an achievement. Now I’ve more time, I’m really upping my game and hoping to share the results. Getting into an exercise regime with chronic pain and fatigue is certainly difficult but it’s not impossible. I really want to inspire at least one person through sharing my story. If I can do it I honestly believe anyone can.

I’m still live-streaming most days and hoping to grow my audience even more. I love sitting and chatting to everyone raw and unedited. I like to think people appreciate how open I am about my life and struggles. Occasionally I’m funny too, so I’ve been told.

Health wise I very much, like I always have, take things day by day and one step at a time. My health is a blog post in itself mind so I don’t really want to say too much on the subject here. Maybe I could talk about at some point in…….. BLOGTOBER

Yep you read that right. I’m doing BLOGTOBER again this year. I gave it a go in 2017 and really enjoyed it. I’ve been thinking about it over the last week or so and think it would be a great way of kick starting this site again πŸ™‚

Maybe a post every day for a month will make up for what an appalling blogger I’ve been the rest of 2018 lol

So if you’re new here, hit the follow button so you don’t miss a thing.

I’ve missed you all. I’ve missed this site.

Charlotte xxx

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www.instagram.com/charlottedebs

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27 Things

In case you didn’t know (I mean why would you?) I celebrated my 27th birthday this week. Yay!!

In honour of reaching this glorious milestone, because honestly there’s been plenty of times I thought I wouldn’t.

Let me jump straight into this totally unoriginal idea of a blog post.

27 Things I’ve Learnt in 27 Years

  • You can’t rely on other people to determine your happiness, that’s up to you and you only.
  • Nothing is more important than your health.
  • Not just your physical health, your mental health is pretty damn important too.
  • Life is about balance, you can’t work yourself into the ground, you probably shouldn’t party yourself into the ground either.
  • You can’t do everything at once.
  • It’s ok to make mistakes, everyone does.
  • It’s important to learn from your mistakes. Was it really even a mistake if you learnt from it and did it better next time?
  • Life gets tough at times and unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do about it. Everyone goes through tough times. Hang in there.
  • Sometimes you need to hit rock bottom in order to work yourself up.
  • You need to stop comparing yourself to others.
  • Life’s not a competition, we’re all in a different race.
  • Buy the right size clothing. No matter what size you are, you’ll look a hell of a lot better when your clothing fits.
  • Accept you can’t make everyone like you.
  • Save money, when you can.
  • Remember to treat yourself. You only live once after all.
  • Challenge yourself in life. Whether it’s doing something that scares you. Something that you won’t find easy. It could be anything. Imagine how accomplished you’ll feel afterwards.
  • It’s never too late for education and you’re never too old to learn.
  • Exercise!!
  • Know your self worth.
  • You need to love and respect yourself before you can expect others too.
  • Be kind to others.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Don’t be afraid to think for yourself. At the end of the day you’re the one who has to live with your decision.
  • Accept help and advice. Especially from professionals and loved ones.
  • Don’t have regrets.
  • Accept you can’t change the past.
  • Be present. There are times it’s great to just be there. Living in the moment, The there and now, not focusing on a phone / screen of some sort.
  • I’m absolutely positive a lot of these points won’t be new to a lot of you. To me though, they’re truly some of the most important lessons I’ve learnt over the last 27 years.

Hope you enjoyed this post and feel free to hit me up and let me know something important you’ve learnt in life.Love Charlotte xxxIncluded a few pics from Birthday celebrations. Follow me on Instagram for more πŸ™‚

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We’re grown ups now (possibly)

When we were kids we couldn’t wait to grow up, leave school and start our lives. Only now as a fully fledged adult (in the eyes of the government and law) I can’t help but think my childhood went by far to quick.

Wouldn’t it be nice to go back to the days where who you were gonna play with at break time, or sit next to in math we’re the biggest problems in life. Bills and taxes weren’t in our vocabulary and relationships started with a note featuring a tick box option then ended with another note less than a week later.

Whilst in terms of fundamental life skills I was prepared for being an adult. There’s a bunch of stuff you can’t be or just weren’t prepared for, well at least in my case. (I can’t be the only one right?)

Let me share a few of them in this post

Heartbreak- Ok whilst a lot of people feel heartbreak for the first time as an adolescent. It’s not something you’re ever prepared for, both then and as an adult.

Chronic Illness- Either being diagnosed yourself or watching a family member become ill. Everyone thinks it’ll never happen to them. Unfortunately it has to happen to someone.

Taxes- Whilst we grow up knowing the basics, nothing prepares you for looking at your very first payslip where the government automatically takes 20%. Yep if you work a 5 day week, essentially you’re working at least 1 of those days for money you’ll never see. Oh and the more you earn the more they take.

Banking / Finance In General- Absolute basics that I certainly never learnt from school. Credit cards, loans, APR, PPI (wtf???). How do I manage debt? Adultings hard.

Bills- Whilst I knew about bills and had a rough idea of what bills were involved with living independently. I speak to so many people my own age who genuinely didn’t know utilities such as water weren’t free.

The Loss Of A Parent- The natural order of things suggests that at some point we’re all going to witness and grieve the loss of a parent. It’s something you can never be prepared for.

Relationships / Partnerships- As an adult relationships can be a little more complicated than dating your childhood sweetheart. Throw in a jealous ex, 2 kids each with previous partners and some emotional issues. It’s not easy. When do you fight for someone? When do you let go? What’s an abusive relationship?

Yeah life can be difficult at times, but adulthood is just something we have to navigate. Through the twists and turns, ups and downs we keep on moving forward. Let’s face it we can’t go backwards.

I’ve just realised this post doesn’t seem overly positive. Don’t forget all the awesome parts of being an adult. Alcohol, sex, independence.

Thanks for reading guys. I’d really appreciate if you gave the blog a follow. I’ve got something exciting coming up oh and I’VE ACTUALLY GOT POSTS SCHEDULED!!! YAY!!!

Adulting, what’s something you weren’t prepared for?

Let me know.

Love Charlotte

xxx

My laptop unfortunately gave up on life. The WordPress app then decided it wasn’t having it either on both my iPad and phone, which kinda sucked. It’s taken until now to find a way to upload anything. I hate that it’s been almost a month since I last posted.
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The Rise Of Social Media

Social media is something that was basically non existent ten years ago. Ok so some sites were in their earliest stages, but it all seemed a world away from the Snapchat, Insta, Twitter checking on the hour, every hour existence of today.

You can’t deny the positive effects. People have found long lost family members. It closes the gap in long distance relationships, friendships etc. Social media in a way, opens up a whole new world, especially to those of us who have become trapped in situations that limit how we experience the world around us, eg, illnesses, responsibilities, financial restrictions.

As a blogger / avid social media lover, the effect of social media platforms, has essentially changed my life. It’s provided my life with a purpose, reduced the feelings of loneliness and isolation and increased my confidence greatly. There’s now very little that can be said to upset me (thanks trolls). Camera shy? Not me πŸ˜‰

Check my Instagram

www.instagram.com/charlottedebs

However/but (there’s always a but) I can’t help thinking it’s not all good, well at least from my own experience and point of view. If I’m totally honest, I say my confidence has increased but only in certain situations. In, like, actual real life, I struggle. Dating, meeting new people, being social on the whole, it’s hard. Without the safety of a computer or screen, I freeze. Ten years ago that wouldn’t of been a problem. Speaking on the phone wouldn’t of been a problem either, due to the increase in texting, emails, emojis and more however, it is. I’m sure I can’t be the only person who feels it is.

I truely don’t know what the solution is. In this day and age I really don’t think throwing out the smartphones is the answer. Maybe instead of texting we could make the odd phone call. I don’t know.

Let me know your thoughts and follow the blog to keep up with upcoming content. I’ve actually got posts scheduled (shock horror 😲 lol).

Love Charlotte xxx

I’m aware my grammar is terrible. I guess that’s what happens when you drop out of school early. Sorry. I really do write as I speak. Some people love it, some hate it. Don’t let it put you off though. I promise you’ll get used to it.
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I’m not perfect

I’ve written, rewritten and then written again this post I don’t know how many times. Maybe grab a drink because believe me, there’s a lot I want to say. I know from experience though it’ll probably come out a bunch of swearing ramblings with the point I was tryna make in the middle somewhere. I apologise in advance. However it’s all personal thoughts from the heart.

If you’ve read any of my posts here or on my ‘old blog’ www.missclx.com you’ll have noticed I tend to write exactly as I speak. So yeah, nothing I ever write is going to be the greatest piece of grammatical reading. (I bet you’re looking forward to the book already πŸ˜‰ ) I’m never going to be the most perfect or most popular blogger. I’m just never going to be perfect in life.

In December 2017 I had every intention of doing blogmas. I had some great content ideas, was feeling festive and inspired… Then chronic pain took hold, like really fucking took hold. I’ve struggled for a long time with pain, but nothing and I mean NOTHING ever prepares you for the moment you contemplate throwing yourself in front of a car or straight up killing yourself two weeks before Christmas. YES I was in THAT much pain. If I got hit by a car, best case scenario I’d break both my legs, end up needing surgery and drugging up to my eyeballs. That would be enough time for the pain in my face to chill the fuck out. Worst case scenario, well we all know what that is, but hey at least I wouldn’t be in pain right? I’m used to the rollercoaster of up and down days. That day … was shit.

Here’s a little mind fuck for you… You get to a place where you feel comfortable in your skin and your body. Even if it doesn’t always work right. Then you have to start medication that causes an average weight gain of 40 pounds. You can be body happy and ill or obese and pain free, you can’t have both.. I bet you’re reading this thinking the answers obvious. To most it is, and to me it was too. Right now though I can’t help feel disgusted when in the mirror.

Charlotte this is sooooo depressing. Why are you telling us this stuff ? First of all people wanted me to write more personal posts. Second and most importantly of all as a way for me to express myself. Believe it or not that was why I started to blog in the first place….for me. Honestly I think a lot of bloggers / vloggers forget that before they turned their blogs into businesses, they were just safe little corners of the internet where you could express yourself. BE yourself…

I’m so sick of pretending to be something I’m not, whether it’s online, or in real life, all I want to be is me.

The only goal I have for 2018 is happiness. I truly hope to share my journey some of that happiness with you on here

I won’t promise you an upload schedule, because I’ll only fail and end up annoyed with myself. I really need to beat myself up less going forward. I do have some plans for a blog overhaul, new look etc as well as some cool content but I’ll keep you all in suspense.

Remember to follow so you don’t miss out !!

Love

Charlotte

xxx